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Me, Myself and I

13/6/2017

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I still have my mother’s voice in my head from when I was little:

     "It’s not ‘Me and Sally are going to the shops’, it's ‘Sally and I’."

Whether we learn English as we are growing up, or learn it later in life, we learn the rules from the people around us. We are taught that it is rude to put yourself before someone else, and that you should say I.

Me and I are two words that are often confused. It may be because of that voice in our heads from when we are young that we try not to sound rude or wrong, and then we over-compensate.​
I
I (and we, he, she, you and they) are pronouns. They are used to represent a person instead of using their name. These pronouns are classed as subject pronouns as they do the action of the sentence.

                ✔ I went to the movies.
                ✔ She went to the movies

We use I when it is the subject of the sentence  –  the person doing the action.
If there are two or more people doing the action, we say

                ✔ Sally and I went to the movies.
                X Sally and me went to the movies

Me
Me (and us, him, her, you, and them) are also pronouns but they substitute for the object of the verb. They are classed as object pronouns as they are the object or receiver of the action.

                ✔ Sally spoke to me

Me is the receiver of the talking so we use me.

When there is more than one person receiving the action, we still use me

                ✔ Sally spoke to Jane and me

Many people feel this sounds wrong - maybe because of that voice from their childhood.

To check if you have it right, take out the extra person (in this case Jane) and see if it sounds right.

                X  Sally spoke to I
                ✔ Sally spoke to me
 
Myself
The other day I heard a sentence on TV along the lines of

                X Sally and myself went to the movies

or sometimes you hear

                X She gave it to Sally and myself

This is often done as people are over correcting their grammar. Perhaps they think it sounds posher or more correct.

Myself is a reflexive pronoun. It is used when the subject and object (the doer and the receiver) of a sentence refers to the same person.

                ✔ He cut himself

You wouldn’t say

                X Myself went to the movies

so we wouldn’t say

                X Jane and myself went to the movies.
 
Myself can also be an intensive pronoun. It is used for emphasis.

                ✔ I made it myself

In this sentence, I is a subject pronoun, it is an object pronoun and myself is a reflexive pronoun.


5 Comments
Penrose
25/11/2020 12:40:55 pm

It works since the I in the sentence is used in lieu of a person’s name.

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Aksjej keke
16/1/2021 03:12:35 am

Nice

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Cynthia carroll link
24/1/2021 11:48:26 pm

Now I understand. When I dont know something that someone is talking about, I ask because I don't want to look stupid. I used to say mom and me, for example , all the time got corrected. So I started using a person's name and I. Got corrected ,somethings. Asked. Didnt get. Just Google and got it. I understand. Thank you for the knowledge. I don't Google much.

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CiarĂ¡n link
30/11/2021 10:53:18 am

Thank you. The structure, explanations, and examples worked a charm.

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Tracie
23/4/2022 01:56:17 pm

This was excellent way of clearing this up for me.

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